I just read another status on facebook how someone's kids are behaving so wonderfully this summer with their chores, summer school work, behavior.....so dutifully... so obedient. I started laughing relaying a conversation from a few days ago.
"What if my kid is the one who fails 3rd grade math?" And my mind continues to go..
"What if my kid is the one who punches a girl half his size?"....
"What if my kid is the one who decides to set off the fire alarm at the library on a hot holiday weekend?"...
"What if my kid is the one who decides to pull down his drawers and pee in front of everyone instead of going to use the bathroom?"....
(I'm just saying. Not that any of this has really HAPPENED.)
What if....
How come there aren't more blogs on that?? I sincerely hope my friend decides to at least do a guest blog under a pseudonym. Any other takers? I can change the names to protect the innocent. I think it is great when there are kids who are doing wonderfully however sometimes misery loves company, there are those of us who need a bit of encouragement from others who have been there. I have been known to be real. Anyone else want to join??
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I'm all for real, and sometimes the real is nice and smooth, while other times the real is messy and bumpy. We usually have a good mix of both at my house, that's for sure! If math is cheerfully done then we're hearing the moans and complaints about writing or that 'they don't have to work as much as I do' (from the oldest). I love reading that true picture from others too, and when the picture is very nice and all put together I just try to remind myself to be happy for them, because if trials aren't coming in homeschool right now they are probably happening in other areas of their life. It's never easy to see from the outside how someone is really doing. ;-)
We have both - sometimes within moments of each other! A smooth hour working on Social Studies, good behavior at the pool, lovely. So, hey, let's go out to dinner! He comes in reeking of cologne (I get nauseated at the smell of most colognes and perfumes). So, I start the discussion on being sensitive to others and that many people don't like cologne and hey, didn't we just talk about this last night??? He kicks back in a chair and says in a sneeringly sarcastic snarl "well you just will have to get over it, because that is just my style". I won't go into the back and forth that escalated into "you need to go to your room and cool down"...and his reply was to tilt his head, curl his lip, cross his arms over his chest and say "no". It was not a good evening and I'll just leave it at that. Something of this caliber happens at least a couple of times every week - if not more frequently.
I don't know that people always feel free or comfortable airing there bad days, and struggles on Facebook. But, hey, everyone struggles with their kids. We might not fully understand each others' struggles, but as moms we have compassion, because we have our own battles. You are such a blessing and your son is special, and beautiful, just the way he is. And you are special, and beautiful as a friend, just the way you are. I love to "hear" you be real. It is a gift that I hope that you keep giving ;)
What if..... you kid is the one that pees off the front porch in full view of the neighbors...
What if..... you kid is the one who pops bubbles with the hammer, nearly missing everyone's head.
What if.... you kid yelled out the window of the car asking " does the lady need the scooter cuz she is fat?"
Reality... keeps us humble...lol
I'm all for being real. My kids can appear to be so wonderful and well behaved but they're normal. They have their "good" moments and they have their not so good moments. I'm not a perfect parent and I don't have perfect kids. ~Tess (from the Crew)
Queen Mum, David has been an absolute angel lately. "Mom, I think we are out of toilet paper. I'll drive you to the store!" He just got his driver's permit . He is just so willing to help out around the house now so I have time to be chaufeurred! LOL
Actually, I used to worry a lot about him (my autie is the compliant child). He is not a risk-taker or impulsive, but he was defiant and oppositional. Fortunately, we started working on relationship infused with grace and natural consequences and that worked best for him.
I think keeping things real is encouraging to all of us. I recently wrote a blog post called "Keepin' It Real" which exposes many of my not so fab moments here at home. And, yes, my youngest once set off a fire alarm at a nature center during a homeschooling program that my older two were attending. I was standing RIGHT THERE with him, he just found it and pulled it so fast!
Todd Wilson was the keynote speaker at our state's homeschool conference and I know that mothers keeping it real with each other is one of his popular sessions. I also think it is the base of the book, "Lies Homeschooling Mothers Believe."
I'm visiting from the TOS older crew. Hello! Stop by and visit sometime, http://tobebusyathome.blogspot.com
Samantha
I hope it wasn't my status because I totally have you fooled! Lol If it was then I apologize and will do better to keep it real.
What if my kid stands up in the pew in the middle of church, drops his pants and starts peeing everywhere?
What if my kid chomps his candy so loud at church that it bothers the hard of hearing old folks around us?
What if the Pastor says in conclusion and my kid yells out its about time?
All things that have happened to me btw. Hmmm, I can't believe they still let us in church. lol
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